My Journey’s My Own

A Devotional

Moms are the cornerstone of the family. We are the nurturers and the main caregivers. If you come from a long line of nurturing moms like I do, then you probably have a set of traditions to go along with some amazing memories. 

Memories of families together, around the table, during one of the many American holidays celebrated. But what do we do, when our moms are gone and it’s our turn to keep those traditions alive?

When the tide turns and siblings grow up and move away, start their own families, and then have their spouses family traditions to keep as well? What happens then? Nobody advised us about that?!

Well, a lot of different things can happen at this point. A lot of times there are a lot of hurt feelings that come along with this change. Because most people don’t like change and have a hard time embracing it. But for moms it’s a smidge different. We all want our babies around us at these times. It’s kind of what we had in our heads as our right as moms and grandmas. But the times have changed. 

I feel that the way I grew up and the traditions kept are leaving us. It makes me sad but I think it’s ok. I can make new traditions. My kids can have a new tradition as can the nieces and nephews. 

All that really matters is the love we have for each other, not who is cooking the ham or bringing the pie. That’s all just fluff.

Get out of your own way and embrace the new experiences!

Bring in new food, new people, new spaces to celebrate. You may find that it’s very filling spiritually and we can all use a little of that!

On the flip side, kids, keep your parents in mind. Sometimes what you want, hurts them. Keep that in mind when you want to take that trip to Hawaii during Christmas. Parents are hurt by their kids more than they ever let on. Unless Mom is leading the charge towards the plane, make sure she’s ok with this and check yourself. You only have one mom and very few holidays with her, Hawaii will always be there. 

Love one another and keep your families together as best you can. Be flexible and understanding. Keep the spirit of the holiday alive in any way you can. Some don’t have families to celebrate with, so cherish yours.

Actions/Questions

What’s the one tradition you don’t ever want to change? Have you expressed this to your family?

Think up one new thing you can do at your next family celebration.

Do you have a plan for when your kids become adults? How will holidays be celebrated? Have the conversation before it’s time. You’ll be glad you did.

Verses

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” Psalm 127:3

“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” Genesis 2:24