Drama, drama, drama. We have all experienced it and most of us loathe it. It is a beast that seems to follow the female human for some reason. Maybe it’s one of those lovely side effects of Eve’s original boo-boo. Who knows?
How do we avoid it all together? Honestly I don’t think we can. It rears its head in all aspects of our lives. So if we can’t avoid it we have to deal with it and try to come through without injury and without causing harm.
When we are teens it’s the worst right? We were either part of the mean girls or affected by them. Sometimes teenage drama follows us into adulthood. Well, I guess that depends on how you’ve matured and the nature of those around you.
If you learned the lessons that the teen years are supposed to teach and you’ve grown as a person then I would assume the worst times for gossip, bullying and drama would have ended for you. However, we have to assume that it’s not always the case.
Gossip is the worst event that will cause drama. Spreading rumors and talking about someone behind their back will always find its way back to you. Avoid it. Don’t participate. Make it a cardinal rule that you will only say things you would say to that person!
To quote Thumper “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin at all” (insert wiggle nose)
It’s a good way to live.
If you’ve done what you can but the drama still finds you, then what?
Own it. Own your part. Apologize if warranted or have it out with that person. Whatever the situation calls for. I’ve had to learn this lesson the hard way and it can be painful. But all lessons worth learning usually are.
Being an adult comes with a lot of responsibility and one of those is being honest about being wrong. It’s alright to admit it. In fact, it’s very healthy. I’m wrong about a lot of things a lot of the time. I’ve had to “eat crow” plenty in my adult life. It’s helped me grow as a person.
No matter where the drama finds you, do your best not to participate if you can. If you can’t avoid it, at least enter it with a clear head and be deliberate with your words. Be kind always and never ever insult someone’s momma. (HAHA)
Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Ephesians 4: 31-32 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Father God we come to you as your humble and sinful servants. Lord help us to keep our mouths shut and our hearts open. Help us to not participate in the drama that comes our way, to speak only those things that lift others up. Be with us through life and help us to live as an example of you. We ask this in your name, Amen.
Actions & Questions
Have you ever regretted something you’ve said or done that created drama?
Have you ever lost a friend because of drama?
What is the best lesson you’ve learned from those situations?
Go through your social media, and unfollow or unfriend those who bring you down.
Think about someone that may have been hurt by your words. Apologize now. Doesn’t matter how long has passed, it never hurts to say “I’m sorry”