Have kids they said, it’ll be fun, they said. LOL They are fun, but they are also a lot of work and they do drive me to drink at times.
Now, of course, I’m no alcoholic……well not a bad one at least. 😂😂😂
I’m not ashamed to say that there have been times that I’ve used many means to avoid the trials of being a parent. They (the children) have been sent to their rooms, sent outdoors, sent to a grandparents house, sent to a friends house, put to work and ignored. I have hid in the bathroom, fan running, door locked. I have driven away (no they weren’t too young to be alone) I have sat in the middle of the room and cried like a two year old. I have hidden outside and taken a walk. Just to escape the craziness that comes with raising four children.
Now, my kids are nothing unique in the way of the world. I have one child with ADHD and he has sent me to the wine bottle often, but there are a lot of parents with worse situations. But as parents I feel like we cope as best we can.
When our oldest was 6, she had a sassy mouth. So much so that we attended our first parenting class. It was a great experience, and it taught us a lot. None of which worked with our son.
We have spanked and grounded and scolded and taken things away, sometimes these techniques work and sometimes not. And not every technique works for every child, every time.
Parenting takes practice, trial and error and patience!! LOTS OF PATIENCE!
I’ve been blessed that, for the most part, I have great kids. I have extremely normal kids. There’s nothing that’s really “abnormal” about any of their behaviors. There’s plenty of sass, plenty of messy rooms and fighting to help me fit in with any mom in the world.
Having my children spaced out helped as well. There’s 8 years between my girls, then just 16 mo between the next two and then 3 years until we had our youngest. That meant that our eldest helped us a lot with the three younger ones. Giving her a lot of experience to help her when she becomes a Momma.
She now lives on her own and is starting her life. She’s still full of sass but that just makes her a stronger woman.
Our next daughter is our mild tempered one. The one that needed little to no discipline. You could look at her funny and she would fall apart! We are now entering the pre-teen years and a little sass is coming out. We have had a few eye rolls and the social media accounts are active. But on the whole, she’s an amazing kid.
The boys, however, are BOYS. OH MY WORD! They are hard. I’ve got a count down until we are out of this phase. They fight all the time, their rooms are disasters, they tear stuff up, etc…. The list goes on and on.
But they can still melt my heart with a little smile and an “I love you momma”. Little poops!
So new mommas, just know that we have all been there. Some of us are still there. And we can all relate to your trials and your errors. Nobodies perfect and we are all just doing our best.
So lift each other up. Help each other out and be there for one another. Because at the end of the day, there’s never enough wine!